Tips for Encouraging Individuality in MultiplesDo kids at school call you both “the twins”? Do the teachers call you “the twins”? Have you told others not to call you “the twins”? Does this even bother you or do you want mommy to just stop asking silly questions now? Thankfully the answers to the questions were no. It's good to be different. We have always done everything we can to grow our children's individuality and not let anyone label them as the twins. They are, after all, two unique individuals that happen to share a birthday, but they are not the same person. Some of the steps we've taken in our house to help encourage individuality are:
- Even before our boys were born, we made the decision not to give our twins names that sounded alike. We wanted them to be looked at as individuals and not as one of a pair.
- We don't dress our boys alike, though they do go through phases where they want to dress alike and we let them because it's their choice.
- We let our children form their own likes and dislikes, and we don't push one child into an activity just because his brother likes it.
- We use a lot of labels. The boys love to label their own special toys and they respect each others' interests and space.
- We let them make their own choices. Sometimes it is easier for us to just choose for them, and choose the same things so there's no fighting, but we try to avoid that when we can. It's important for them to express their individual wants and needs.